3 Key Ingredients
For the past two months I’ve been taking a sacred season of just BEING. During this time I haven’t been actively working on myself week in and week out. That said, I’m a sucker for learning and growing so I’ve still been following my favorite podcasts, people I admire and respect and reading a lot of books. So, maybe not a complete off-season but an intentional season of trying to just be – with me, others, work, life and this greater thing called the universe that we all live in. It’s been a welcomed time of less pressure to evolve, but it’s also been hard to just BE. Which, of course, creates a very compelling reason to be curious about why it’s hard for me to just BE. I’m sure I’ll continue with the evolution of that part of me all of my remaining days!
It’s also a time of year that is fueled by expectations of go-go-go, do-do-do, buy-buy-buy and, if you’re like me, trying to do it as perfectly as possible. A recipe for a volcanic eruption and the opposite of what we’re trying to do for ourselves and our families during this magical time of year. Ugh, so what to do.
SELF-CARE, COMPASSION & CURIOSITY
Those three ingredients can create a better recipe for this time of year. We’re pulled in so many directions this time of year and it’s hard to keep up with everything, including our own expectations.
What’s you're self-care look like when things get out of sorts and hectic? Does it go away? Be more aware of what’s non-negotiable for you in order to take care of you. Create that list AND do it – non-negotiable – daily or weekly.
What’s that inside voice saying? Is it focused on external and material things for value and enjoyment this time of year (or always)? Keep an ear on that voice and pay attention to what it’s saying is most important, how you’re valuable or loved and if it’s a constant negative scroll playing over and over. This voice is powerful – shut it down with compassion. For example: “I’m not doing enough festive things for my kids and I’m not making enough memories!” → “I’m doing the best I can to create memories and my kids are enjoying the ones we’re doing. Plus, what values am I teaching my kids if it’s non-stop festivities all month long?”
Anytime you find yourself torn on decisions (big or small), being verbally beat up by that voice or in a volcanic eruption, take 10 steps back and retrace your steps. What happened that led you to get here? What could have been different or helped you avoid this? Why is that voice saying those things – and do you really believe them or do they positively serve you? Get curious about everything! How you’re thinning, reacting, when you’re burning out, your values, etc. This is our most powerful tool!
So, happy official holiday everything where expectations are, dare I say, too high and we’re all in survival mode. Remember your oxygen mask first, in order to make the most out of your holiday.
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